“MODH AILO MHONTTOCH GANN GHALTA KHUIM FIVNNI”, thus goes one
proverb in Konkani and this is exactly what has happened on last Tuesday at
Calangute when the most pathetic incident of the most irresponsible couple
occurred when the incident of the domestic fights between the husband and his
wife went viral thru face book thereby
informing the Goans worldwide about our “Bannxirem” that we washed in front of the public. Domestic violence
is not something new, it is in existence everywhere since time immemorial but
never I noticed as it was thru this
incident.
Suddenly I was informed on that day by one of my friends from
Salcette requesting me to rush immediately there otherwise the husband would
kill his wife and both their children
too, because the wife is desperate and pleading for help, she even said it
seems that he is burning her face and
asking her to sleep with his friends for money. Then that friend of mine sent me the video of
the wife bitterly crying explaining her total inability to face this ordeal
while her husband standing like Saddam Hussein ready to trample her under his feet and his daughter of about 12, in folded hands crying bitterly to
pacify her brute father. That he was
brute one can easily notice from the
hand written letter his desperate wife wrote saying her intention to commit
suicide because of the persecution she was suffering from her husband.
Seeing the video I was totally surprised because I saw the
faces of popular Konkani Stage artiste Bushka, her husband John and their young
daughter. I took the decision to go there to save the life of our Bushka who is very
much required for the Konkani Stage in acting in the Dramas and singing songs
on the Stage as well as elsewhere, her mellifluent voice put her into an
especial class of her own and acting in
the Tiatros she has reached so far then how I personally can see her husband
killing her or she committing suicide as per her letter? I could not believe her husband would do such
rubbish because according to my son who was studying together with John, he was
very calm and cool and docile boy while his father Alexinho was my schoolmate
at Arpora who being very nice boy how his son could be so rowdy? Then when I
reached his place at Calangute where I was expecting a group of Tiatrists to save her life but to my surprise I neither found any “Kuddo Mus”
there nor their house opened. Then
I thought of going to the Church and discuss this issue with the Calangute Pe.
Vigar whether he is aware of any troube brewing in this family. I know her well since her father was a good
friend of mine who even stayed at my place for about a week when we brought him
to Kuwait some years back to participate
in our musical Show. Then I met one of
their neighbours who told me that the entire family is taken to Calangute
Police Station. Then I came home and after a while I called over phone Bushka
but a male voice answered me saying it is not her number, then I told him to give
me Buskha’s number for this he replied saying he will give it later. Then I identified myself to him telling him
to tell Bushka I called her.But she did not call me.
While the heat of
first video was still on suddenly another 2 videos came indicating the
whole family of Bushka, her husband and
children together in a reconciled mood firing Skudd Missiles against all who
involved with them to create a rift between them and in the bargain she even
criticised Goan community with harch words but poor thing she forgot that this
is the same Goan community who supported
her and elevated her to the pedestal by encouraging and promoting her to the
level she last reached. This is the
same Goan community who showered her with love and affection on and off the
Stage. This is the same Goan community that treated her with great “Apurbai” when she was coming up on
Konkani Stage even by closing their eyes for the mistakes she was doing while performing on the Stage.
Now my point here in writing this piece is to tell Bushka and her belloved husband that you have committed the biggest blunder by doing the Videos of your stupidity. Bushka you are a public figure since it is so public got all the rights to judge you, whether you like it or not. The behaviour of Public figures are in the hands of public. Don’t blame the people for your blunder. Who made the first Video? Is it not by one of you? But surely not by the professional Videographer. I am talking as a member of the community and society, I have all the rights to comment and pass remarks on what stupidity you are doing. With your first video you put us espcially your supporters and promoters into total confusion and within few hours you changed your mind and acting as if what has happened earlier was nothing and it was not an issue? What a ‘pochpochit’ statement it is, this may not be an issue for you but deffinetely it was an issue for us. There is a saying in Konkani “Khapurleak khuim Thanaim sarkim ani Kulei sarke” because Khapurlem was a khapurlem, night time she will sleep with her husband “Khapri and day time with the Paklo without giving any clue to her Khapri husband.
What I don’t understand that Bushkah and her Husband John not indicating any remorse for what
nonsense they have done. Besides Stage
and Mike Bushkha is nothing, some people may treat her like a Toy and John is
also nothing without the shadow of his wife but inspite of this they both came
with this Drama to fulfil their craving for publicity? The truth must prevail and truth must be
disclosed. Without fire there is no
smoke and without any truth in John’s harassment to Bushka, the first Video did
not come out, there is some truth in Bushka’s statement of harassing her and
this can be further justified by seeing their daughter pleading with her father
to spare them of all the harassment. These bloody “Kalche Poirche Potte” at this raw age acting like “Maldicao”
disturbing the peace of community should be reprimanded by the concerned authorities.
And John should know better that just because you are the husband of
Bushka you cannot treat her like your “Davea
Payanchi Vann”. You have no right to act with her like Hitler, don’t
think you are omnipotent to deal with her roughly and rudely. Wives cannot be treated like Slaves.
And to Bushkha, it hurts me to tell you that you have erred
in this episode tremendously. You have
to come out with an APOLOGY for the worst blunder you did thereby disgracing
the image of our Goan society and that of
Christian community. How you both will
enter the Church? Do you think God will
forgive you if you don’t repent? Once
again I demand an APOLOGY from both of you
for cheating and lying the people. This type of barbarity should not
happen again.
When I ponder over this whole episode it looks to me that you are suffering from “Modh” and “Modh
Ailo Mhonntoch Ghann Ghalta Khuim Fivnni.
Tumi dogainim loz khallea bazun kiteak tumcheo dogaimcheo Ghanni Ghaltat Khuim
Fivnni. Ghaluni kedna pasun ghalta te
pollouya”.
A.Veronica Fernandes.
